Since Cameron was born, Madison has been having a little trouble with hitting at daycare. We didn't learn about it until I went back to work and Madison had a few really bad days. Dawn finally told us after another parent complained that her precious peanut was getting smacked around. I can't imagine why she would have an issue with it. ;)
When we learned of the problem, we immediately cracked down on Madison. In typical Dad style Mike said "Madison, if you hit at daycare I'm going to spank you."
I almost choked on my dinner when he said that. Then explained to him why that probably won't be a very good solution.
We finally agreed on a discipline plan for the hitting. For every day that she got in trouble for hitting at daycare, we took away a favorite toy. It required two days of no hitting to earn the toy back. On the way to daycare every day, we had a lecture about how we don't hit. I explained to her that if she felt she needed to hit, she should just walk away.
I made her recite back to me over and over and over again what she should do.
If she did get into trouble for hitting, I also would make her apologize and hug the person that she hit when we got to daycare in the morning.
It only took a few days of this and the problem pretty much went away. In fact, we only had to take away one toy.
After four weeks, she now only has the occasional bad day.
Yesterday, while playing outside for the first time in months, Madison smacked little Tyler in the head with a toy truck and got sent inside.
So, we had the discussion in the car again this morning and I told her that she had to apologize to Tyler when we got there and give him a hug.
The first thing she did when she walked in the house was seek out Tyler. I overhead her say:
"Tyler, I'm sorry for hitting you with the truck. My mom says I have to give you a hug."
Then she gives a very stunned looking Tyler a big bear hug.
The truth is, Tyler probably doesn't even remember getting smacked in the head with the truck - because getting smacked in the head with a truck will do that to ya. It's just the principle - teaching her to own up to her mistakes and to apologize when she has done wrong - even if the only part she truly gets is "because my Mom says...."
More fun posts from the weekend to come - and an update on adorable little Cameron.